To help prevent anyawkward vibesthe next time you’re with others, review these common body language mistakes.
Body Language as a Form of Communication
We communicatein so many ways beyond words.
In fact, research shows that roughly 80% of our communication is non-verbal.
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Patricia Dixon, PsyD
Our nonverbal cues often reveal the truth of our feelings and experiences.
Ournonverbal cuesoften reveal the truth of our feelings and experiences.
Ultimately, science consistently shows that the way we move can significantly impact how others perceive us.
However, miscommunication issues can arise when we inadvertently do something that doesnt properly convey our feelings.
Well dive into that example of body language mistakes and other big ones below.
Unfortunately, many people interpret this as being bored or serious, Spencer says.
It can also come across as impatience or being closed off.
Oftentimes we cross our arms simply because we’re cold.
Weve all been theretapping a foot or fiddling with our hands, Dr. Dixon says.
But fidgeting can signal discomfort or a desire to escape the conversation.
Its like your body is saying, Id rather be anywhere else!
That being said, this is a tricky one because lots ofneurodivergent peoplefidgetas a way to self-soothe or self-stimulate.
These behaviors can keep autistic individuals or people with ADHD feeling grounded and regulated in their bodies.
It’s important to be aware of these habits and acknowledge that there is no rudeness behind it.
Nor is it easy for them to stop these behaviors even if they want to.
We often automatically reach for our phones in idle moments or pauses in conversation.
It’s a normalized behavior, but the effect is still disconnection or disinterest.
In casual tweaks this is perfectly normal and even expected.
In professional tweaks, though, this one may not be ideal.
We may do this to be comfortable, to rest, or because we are thinking very deeply.
However, it can be interpreted as bored or uninterested, Spencer says.
Good posture, on the other hand, signals confidence and attentiveness without saying a word.
Instead of seeming confident, you might just look like you’re overthinking your every move.
The key is finding a balance between mindfulness and natural expression.
You do you, and try not to sweat it.
It says to the other person, Youre important.
A simple smile can go a long way in making you seem more welcoming.
It not only expresses our thoughts and emotions but also shapes our connections with others.
Dr. Dixon says, “Good body language can help reduce conflict and create safe spaces for open dialogue.
I encourage people to embrace your bodies as communicators and make your interactions richer and more meaningful.
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