This mainstream term (and, unfortunately, behavior) is a form ofpatronizingsomeone.
Does Patronizing Mean Condescending?
Being patronizing differs slightly from condescending in that its presented with a false front of kindness.
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Condescending behavior is a somewhat more outright air of superiority.
Patronizing behavior can cause a relationship to be unhealthy or even cause it to end.
Signs Youre Dealing With a Patronizing Partner
Patronizing behavior can range from subtle to in your face.
It can also be hard to determine from inside a relationship.
They Interrupt You
Everyone is guilty ofinterrupting their partneroccasionally with an eager thought or story.
If a recent time doesnt come to mind, theyre likely patronizing.
Maybe youre planning a trip to a city you used to live in.
This an extreme example, but one that shows the core of many issues on a larger scale.
They Assume Theres a Lot You Dont Know
Your partner doesnt know everything about you.
No one knowseverything, but they shouldnt assume you know nothing.
Its not hard to kindly ask, Do you know about X?
or trust youll speak up if youre unsure about something.
Its not great when they act like youre stupid for not knowing it in the first place.
They arent better than you because they know how to clean the oven.
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This places the shift on you getting what you need versus them changing something theyve done wrong.
Its essential to not only end these interactions but to understand whats fueling them.
Consul recommends asking, Is there some unresolved stuff your partner needs to address from their past?
Is your partner having feelings about something but hasnt been able to communicate them?
Acouples therapistorindividual therapistcan help determine this and ensure everyone feels validated and respected in the relationship.
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