Communication is key
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Have you ever felt like there are underlying tensions in your relationship?
Understanding Relationship Tensions
Hidden tensions are silent stressors that can put a strain on a relationship.
They can arisein the workplace, between relatives and friends.
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as well as in couples.
Likewise, external factors like health concerns orfinancial worriescan also cause them to arise.
Trauma from early life or previous relationships can be a factor in the development of hidden tensions, too.
This can cause tension from the other person and fear of not being loved.
Another one is where one person haslow self-esteemor doesnt feel worthy of love.
This can transpire into arguments and lack of communication.
However, by communicating its easier to work toward a solution that works for both of you.
You may feel youre walking on eggshells or confused and hurt by your loved ones uncharacteristic reactions.
I’m an overthinker and tend to read between the lines a lot, says 28-year-old Samira.
Ideally, youd want to address hidden tensions before it gets to this point.
Another sign of hidden tensions can be adecrease in physical intimacy and the frequency of sex.
Impact of Hidden Tensions
Healthy relationships can be hugely important for our overall happiness.
Sometimes, when someones dealing with hidden tensions they might go inward and shut off.
Others can find comfort elsewhere, drifting away from their partners and even veering into emotional affairs.
This can then, of course, make matters even worse.
Strategies to Address Hidden Tensions
Like we said, communication is important.
Be understanding of each other and ask for help when needed.
Be there for each other, she continues, also suggesting going out into nature to have the conversation.
Being outside can help ground you both and make you feel calmer.
You both want the relationship to succeed, so what can you do to help each other?
Couple or family therapycreates a safe, supportive, and neutral context to enable these important conversations.
To that end, we cant always eliminate a problem.
Cavallo adds, Learn to listen attentively, address concerns as they arise, and respect each others boundaries.
Research suggests relationships thrive best when there is a pattern of appreciation and fondness towards each other.
Keep in Mind
Hidden tensions can have a real impact on your relationship.
But when this happens, its best to communicate.
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