Mindfulness can also help withdating.
Let’s explore how.
What Is Mindful Dating?
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In the context of dating, mindfulness refers to approaching dating in a conscious and proactive manner.
It involves:
Many people engage in the opposite of mindful dating.
They might log on to dating apps and scroll mindlessly.
They complain about not being able to meet people but ignore good opportunities to do so.
How to Date Mindfully
So what can you do to practice mindful dating?
There are plenty of strategies that can help you become more mindful during your dating experience.
Set a Goal
What are you hoping to be the outcome of your dating experience?
Curate Prospects
Be mindful about how youfind your dating prospects.
There are several options specifically geared toward being more mindful when dating.
For instance, eHarmony uses comprehensive questions to match you with an ideal date.
Not having to mindlessly scroll through a dating app means more time to focus on what’s important.
attempt to practice being anactive listeneron dates.
Being mindful in this way will help both you and your date.
Your date will feel appreciated and that you are interested.
Set Boundaries
Part of mindful dating also involvessetting boundariesfor yourself.
By the same token, be mindful in determining and setting boundaries for yourself.
If someone repeatedly pushes through your boundaries, let them know that it’s not working out.
Practice mindfulness in noticing different qualities about your date and how you feel during your time together.
Complaining
Notice if you or your date are complaining frequently about people, places, or things.
What is happening in the moment and is it what you would like to continue to do?
Treat each date with respect, courtesy, consideration, and care.
Taking Rejection Personally
It happens.
Sometimes people will not be compatible, get along, or like you, and that may will hurt.
Take some time for reflection.
Find ways to spend time together in a way that helps build a positive, meaningful relationship.
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