Nevertheless, my expertise in the subject doesnt mean I havent had my fair share ofbadsexual experiences.
Plus, keep reading for expert tips on communicating better in the bedroom.
It was like he was finally cashing in on what he was investing in leading up to this moment.
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It was like he was finally cashing in on what he was investing in leading up to this moment.
To this day, Brynn has not been as intimate with anyone else.
Their main goal is just finishing, she says.
I told them I dont enjoy having sex with someone whos not passionate, she says.
The lack of foreplay and passion makes the sex feel one-sided and only pleasurable for them, she adds.
He was saying, Im more passionate when it comes to someone who Im seriously dating, she says.
After that conversation, Lea saw this partner one more time.
During their hookup, he tried to be more passionate, but ultimately it felt forced, she says.
The lack of foreplay and passion makes the sex feel one-sided and only pleasurable for them.
There clearly wasnt enough sexual chemistry between us or intimacy, she says.
It was so promising that the couple invested in a video training series on tantra afterward.
Exploringtantric sexallowed the couple to explore new directions for experiencing connection and pleasure.
It also gave the pair something to look forward to each week.
Counting down the days until their nextrendezvousmade the actual sex even more pleasurable and tantalizing.
It was very traumatic for me, not going to lie.
I just realized, This is not good, I have to see a doctor.
The truth is, for most people, bedroom problems are not easy to talk about.
Growing up, very few people had healthy conversations about sex modeled from them, says Balestrieri.
All of these factors make talking about sex openly feel risky.
Nevertheless, Balestrieri reassures thattalking about sexis like building muscle.
The more you do it, the stronger and more comfortable it becomes.
Thats called meaningful learning, which is essential for becoming a skilled communicator.
Why are you feeling unsatisfied?
Is the issuehow frequently youre having sex?
Is it a lack of arousal or adequate foreplay?
Are you missing that spark of sexual chemistry?
Is it that youre not able to finish?
It also takes pressure off to figure things out right in that moment and builds trust.
Instead of saying, You never… You might say something like: I really loved when you fingered me while simultaneously sucking my nipples.
Can we try more of that?
Nevertheless, having a bad sexual experience doesnt have to be a make-or-break moment.
- Kate Balestrieri, CST, a certified sex therapist and author of “What Happened to My Sex Life?
A Sex Therapists Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure.”
It could be asign of an unhealthy relationship, she adds.
Kindly say, thank u, next and find a partner who is equally invested in your pleasure.
*Name has been changed to protect privacy.
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