We know the feeling.
But sometimes, finding the right words can be tough.
In this article, we ask relationship experts how to break up with someone without being a jerk.
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A little kindness and compassion can make a huge difference.
I care about you and I dont want either of us to get hurt later on."
I feel like weve grown apart and theres too much distance between us.
Its no ones fault, but we cant go on this way.
This explains your reasons for breaking up without pointing fingers at anyone.
I’ve think weve been growing in different directions and we want different things.
We’re just not on the same page anymore.
This highlights the fact that you have differences that may not be reconcilable.
You deserve someone whos all in, and I dont think I can be that person at the moment.
This indicates a shift in your priorities, away from the relationship and toward yourself.
This allows you to behonestabout your feelings and put an end to the relationship.
I really wanted it to work out because I care about you but I want to be honest."
This centers the decision on your needs without blaming the other person.
This communicates your appreciation for the person while being clear about your decision.
Its not an easy decision, but it feels like the right one."
This shows you’ve thought carefully about the decision and have considered both your position and theirs.
I think weve tried several times but we have to admit that its not working.
Its about showing respectfor the time you shared, for their feelings, and for yourself.
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