When I hear my ringtone, I assume it’s either spam or something terrible has happened.
However, texting certainly isn’t the right choice for every situation.
The younger you are, the better the chances that you rely on texting.
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“A lot has changed over the generations and today, people are relying on texting more than ever.
She also notes that it functions as a liaison to those heavier convos.
“A simple Thinking of you or Can we talk later tonight?
Textingis just words, with no vocal inflection, and that can causemisunderstandings.
“A persons tone is everything, and getting it wrong over text is so easy to do.
“Over text, tone is conveyed through words, emojis, and punctuation.
This can lead to anything from hurt feelings to fullarguments.
“Ive seen couples spiral into multi-day arguments over a single word or punctuation mark,” says Inyang.
That said, for the bulk of the population you’ll want to relegate texting only to lighter subjects.
That’s because “a well-crafted and thought-out text can soften defensiveness and prevent escalation.
The key is knowing and deciphering when it’s a bridge and when it’s a barrier.”
Because texting takes less time, it works for quick outreach that doesn’t necessitate an immediate response.
Still unsure about how to tell the difference?
Inyang suggests you “think of conversations that need tone, nuance, and presence.
The voice has the power to carry warmth, hesitation, and sincerity.
“Good texting etiquette means being mindful,” says Inyang.
In text, you want to find the balance between short and effusive.
“Don’t be too short (i.e.
Keep it short and clear.”
Emojis play an important role in texting for many, so it’s important to use them appropriately.
“Emojis can be used to soften or clarify tone, but not to avoid discomfort.
Inyang says to pay attention to how you’re responding to the text convo.
If your body feels tight or your chest is heavy, its time to pick up the phone.”
Lastly, “if you care about the relationship and the conversation feels layered; call.”
Keep in Mind
Texting is here to stay, and it has many uses.
But when a situation is emotional, it’s time for a call.
Phone calls are important for situations like conflicts, bad news, and apologies.
If so, it’s worth picking up the phone and using your voice.
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